When I just came to this country my goal was to dedicate myself to study. After a while, I decided to find me a job, but since I did not speak the language fluently it was very hard for me to find a good one.
After looking everywhere, someone told me about a very fancy place that was about to open in the area. I went met the Manager and even though I could hardly speak to him, he appreciated my effort and gave me a chance. I started as a hostess, then waitress and after one year I was the assistent manager of the whole place. During this year I got very close to the manager we became very good friends, even more than that he treated me like family. He was also very patient; he taught me everything about the business and helped me a lot with my English and even with French.
After two and a half years of working in his restaurant, I left him to work for an accounting firm and went to school part time. Last year I decided to come back to school full time so I wanted a less demanding job; I thought of him and went back to work in the restaurant. He happily took me back, but since I new everything about the business he gave me a lot more responsabilities than I expected.
For the whole year I have not told him that I really feel overwhelmed with the amount of work because I know him very well and I know he is going to misinterpret my comment. I also feel that I owe him so much that am willing to make the effort as a way to pay him back.
Even though he pays me very well, even more than he would pay any other manager being a full time student and having to work for more than forty hours a week and having so many responsabilities is becoming way to hard.
I do not have the courage to speak to him about this issue because I know he needs me and I am concerned about his reaction; he trustes me very much and I am basically the only one he leaves in charge of the place when he is not able to be around which lately is very often, and since I think of him as family I do not want to let him down.
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You're in quite a quandary. First of all, it is really good to hear about your loyalty towards him. It seems like a lot of people don't think about loyalty anymore especially in the business world, as you may have encountered.
It's very uncommon to find a person who goes to work full-time and goes to school full-time simultaneously. It is a miracle that you have survived this long!
I definitely understand where you're coming from. You feel like you have an obligation towards your boss and feel like no amount of work will ever re-pay how helpful he was to you in the beginning.
But in order for you not to go insane, you may need to work out a way where you can manage your work and school life successfully.
In my opinion, the truth always hurts but it heals. You have to be honest with your boss but instead of being blunt you can tell him that you are willing to train someone for a month so he/she can share the same responsibility as you. That way, your boss doesn't feel like you want to quit and in time you can cut your hours. Maybe you've already tried that so in that case you can ignore me!
It's always hard to confront someone who you consider your family but it will be harder for you if you don't. Anyway, good luck with your management issue.
If anything, just start consuming large amounts of coffee to stay awake! That will solve any management problem.
Hey,
Thnx for your info. I had no clue they give permission.. and yeah I tried packing all 5 classes into 2 days last semester. That was HELL and work was the same. (I guess since all business is slow.)
But anyways, about your situation..
I was in a VERY similar situation as you are in right now. When I first got my license in NJ I needed a Broker to hire me so that my license would not vanish away and so that I can start making some money. But almost everywhere I looked, they all rejected me saying "only full-timers." I then met a Broker who hired me as a part-time and helped me out alot. For over 1 year i helped him out alot while i didnt get paid that well since my job was commision only. I finally told him the truth about my current state on how I'm not making any money and that I need to focus more on school. He immediatley agreeded and let me not work in the office and allowed me to come work whenever I had the time to.
SO don't be afraid to tell ur boss your true feelings. If he is a friend like you say he is, he should be able to understand fully from what you are saying.
BE STRONG-
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